Childhood Trauma
Why Insight Alone Is Not Enough
Why Insight Alone Is Not Enough Many people come to a point where they understand their past.They can see how certain experiences shaped them.They can trace the origins of their self-doubt, their anxiety, their tendency to question themselves. And still… something doesn’t shift. They find themselves thinking: “I know why I feel this way.So why…
Read MoreWhy Didn’t I Stick Up for Myself?
It’s a question many people quietly carry. You look back on a moment when you were hurt, threatened, or overwhelmed—and instead of fighting back or speaking up, you froze. Or you went along. Or you tried to keep the peace. And later, the questions come: • “Why didn’t I say something?”• “Why didn’t I leave?”•…
Read MoreHabits That Keep Old Wounds Bleeding
I used to think the self-deprecating things I said out loud were harmless. Unpleasant, maybe—even awkward for others to hear—but still harmless. “How stupid can you be?” I’d mutter when I made a mistake. A typo in an already-sent email? “What an idiot.” Sometimes I’d just throw labels at myself: “Lame.” “Hopeless.” “F—ed up.” To…
Read MoreIs Shame Ever a Good Thing?
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “He has no shame,” tossed around like it’s a bad thing—as though shame is something we should have. But is it? And if so, why? The answer is: it depends. Not all shame is the same. Shame is a complex emotional, physical, and behavioral response. To make sense of it,…
Read MoreWas your childhood traumatic?
Many people do not identify with the word trauma. You may be one of them. You may think your childhood was less than optimal, but not traumatic. If that’s you, read on. When really bad things happen, we all acknowledge this as traumatic: physical abuse and punishment like spanking or beating, sexual abuse, neglect or…
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